Walk it Off!: Handling "mom-stress" and savoring the medicine of laughter.

So I have never hidden the fact that many many times, usually several times a day, I pretty much just go crazy! I try to hold it inside. I'm not a yeller or screamer. But I am a huffer. One deep exhale, and everybody knows … mom is about to lose it!


 I've spoken with enough other moms to know I am not alone. But knowing this still never seems to ease my frustration with myself. So many times I've heard and heeded the advice to go into another room, take a deep breath, and ask God for help. While I think this is excellent advice, I have found that for myself perhaps it is not enough to leave the room. I think for me I actually need to leave the house! I'm not necessarily saying you have to take off by yourself and leave everyone behind. However, there is so much to be said for getting away from the distractions of the gadgets, the noises, the walls (which in those crazy mommy moments can literally feel like they are closing in on me), and just getting out into God's world and really breathing Him in. Listen sister. Hormones are real! Rather than pretending we don't struggle with them, let's learn to manage them and face them head on. Trust me. You'll feel better, and your family with thank you!

I remember one day last winter when I felt this coming over me again, but I knew I just had to get out. Mikaela and I went out into the driveway and put on our roller-skates. We skated together in circles in the driveway then went for a loop around the neighborhood. We held hands. We laughed. We talked. Just breathing in the fresh air really rejuvenated my soul. And since its Florida, there was also the sunshine factor. After this, Mikaela and I went for an impromptu romp on the beach. The sand between our toes and the smiles on our faces were exactly what I needed.

So I encourage you, the next time you feel this "I'm going to lose it!" feeling coming over you, just get out and have some fun. Breathe in the fresh air. Do something that will cause your children to laugh. Yes, laughter is great medicine. And what I am learning now is the laughter does not always have to be my own to begin to work powerful healing in my soul.

 ^"Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21 (NIV)

See all the posts in my Holy Hormones! series HERE.

Jesus - The only man to ever understand women!

I have come to the end of a beautiful journey...one which I can most definitely see myself repeating. With dog-eared pages, plenty of highlights, worn edges, coffee stains and water damage (Yes, I live in Florida. Reading in the pool is one of the perks!), my well read copy of  Pierced & Embraced sits here reminding me of the power of our Lord to "gently woo and fiercely pursue our hearts." My time in this new book by Kelli Worrall has been a blessing. It is so beautifully poetic and so profoundly

insightful.

There's one thing (ok, one of many) which men simply cannot understand about women, and that is that often times we women cannot understand ourselves! While some sisters may not want to admit it, I’ve talked to enough to know I’m not alone. We can often be described as beautifully complex balls of emotions, hormones and analyzing thoughts that just won’t quit! But there is one Man who knows women. He sees us...not the frequent, outward craziness, but He sees deep into our souls. Sees us for who we long to be and the power and passion behind our beautiful mess. His name is Jesus.

Beautifully written with transparent glimpses into her own piercing journey, Kelli insightfully unwraps the wondrous way Christ had of relating to the women who crossed His path. He saw their pain and their struggles, but He saw beyond all that to the precious, complex creatures women are, the crowning jewel of all creation. In this book Kelli walks us through a close examination of Christ's encounters with seven different women in Scripture. Women had a special place in our Savior's heart. He cherished these women, drew them to Himself, and lavished them with the love and acceptance of heavenly grace. 

No matter where life finds you now, whether you’re cruising along or barely getting by, regardless of 

your current struggles, depths of pain, or feelings of shame, inadequacy or sheer confusion, I highly encourage you to join Kelli on this journey as she so masterfully uncovers the stories of  women forever changed by an encounter with the Lord. Be encouraged that you are not so far from His grasp that this same encounter cannot be yours if you'll just reach out for the hem of His garment, drink of His living water, break open the alabaster jar of your soul and be poured out before His lavish mercy and grace. Through this book you'll realize afresh, or perhaps for the first time, how He longs to pierce your soul and embrace your heart.

Read it with your Bible close at hand! Wherever you are on your journey, this book will open your eyes to where He is…right there with you, ready to wrap you in His warm embrace.

Go HERE to get your own copy of Pierced & Embraced today. 💥Enter promo code EMBRACED40 to receive 40% exclusively for my followers!!! (Thank you, Kelli!) 💥

To volunteer or not to volunteer? - Avoiding Mommy Burn-out This School Year

Well, here we are… for many of us around the country this is our last full week of summer vacation! Is it just me, or does it go faster every year?

So I want to let you know where my head is right now. As we gear up for another school year and another sports season, I am being prayerfully cautious to be involved where I should without taking on more than I can do and do peacefully. In 1 Peter 5:8 (AMPC) we are told to be well balanced. Last year admittedly, I got out of balance. As a stay at home mom it is easy to feel pressured to take on every volunteer role there is. After all, isn't that why we made the decision for me to be home, so that I could be involved and engaged? And while I think the distinction between "stay at home mom" and

"working mom" is absolute foolishness because I work harder now than I ever did in my corporate job, there does seem to be this pressure or guilt on the shoulders of those of us who don't work outside of the home, feeling that, “Well, of course I should take on all these responsibilities. My schedule is "flexible.'”

Don't get me wrong. I absolutely loved being team parent, room mom, the PTO VP, and a host of other titles. I like being engaged with the kids, involved with the schools and in the trenches with the sports teams, but the fact is it can become too much if you are not prayerfully considering what the Lord would have you do.

When all of my roles ended at the end of last school year the Lord brought me to this verse in Proverbs 31.

“She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. [S. of Sol. 8:12.]” Proverbs‬ ‭31:16‬ ‭AMPC‬‬
‭ (emphasis mine) ‭

Case in point for why I love the Amplified Bible! I had read this verse 1 million times but never had it jumped out to me like it did this time. This was my problem. I was burnt out, and instead of enjoying the roles I had taken on I was resenting them. There are certain things we have to do, certain things we need to do, certain things we are called to do - and the things the Lord lays on each of our hearts are not the same. Whereas I may feel very strongly that being room mom for my daughter's class is a great way for me to stay engaged with what she's going through and what her friends are talking about these days, you may feel that volunteering in the front office to help relieve some of the administrative stress of the school staff and using your natural gifting for organization and love for such tasks is one of your greatest areas of contribution. Think of it this way, when you accept a role in which you only half heartedly feel engaged you could be taking a role from someone with the gifts and talents to really take that role to the next level.

Also, never forget when you say yes to one thing you're saying no to something else. There is always a trade-off. As author, speaker, and leadership expert John Maxwell often says, ask yourself, “What can only I do?” Only I can create the home I desire for my family and be the wife and mom I need to be. But chances are there are probably a dozen other people who will do just as well as I would at being PTO president, if not even better. If I am committed to so many things that my husband comes home to a frazzle wife, my kids get a stressed-out mom, and dinner is whatever we can find in the fridge for the third night in a row, then my number one area is being neglected for the sake of keeping people I don't even know that well happy and pleased with me.

Make a list. What are your top priorities? What are the things you cannot trade? The obligations that are yours and yours alone? If you cannot do them all and still maintain peace in your heart and in your home something is out of balance. Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty… freedom from bondage. (2 Corinthians 3:17) So my question for you is this…Do you feel free? Or do you feel bound?

Here is an example of a very quick pie chart I did with guesstimations of my obligations (that I can remember) as they stand right now prior to signing up for any volunteer stuff at school for this year.  (Time usage for a month based on 720 hours a month (24hs/day 30days/mo.)….don't forget to include sleeping!) This is not an exact science, but boy is it eye-opening!

Even without any school-volunteer commitments yet, I'm left with only 4 hours a week of margin time….only half an hour a day to walk around too tired to think straight, to wander the house looking for my phone...while talking on it!  

Volunteer by all means, but do not spread yourself too thin. Take these last few days of summer break to truly evaluate what is already on your plate and how much room you have for anything else.

Be wary of stretching yourself and pushing past your limits of sanity in an attempt to be all things to all people while in effect neglecting the ones God has entrusted to your care. Many people can be room mom, team parent, PTO president and Sunday school teacher, but only you can be your kids' mom and your husband's wife!